Don’t you just love a good love story? I love to read, I love to write, and when there is a new Hallmark movie advertised on television, my husband goes ahead and clicks record on the DVR. “Which movie is that?” he will invariably ask, “Is it the one where the big shot professional type hits a rough break and has to go home to the small town and get back to his roots? I bet he’s going to meet somebody and fall in love.”
We all know what’s actually going to happen in most books and films. Why do we keep going back to the same storyline? Maybe it’s because, whether the story takes place in a coffee shop, bakery, farm, restaurant kitchen, florist shop, or a house that was left in a will, they all have one thing in common. These stories weave a thread of hope. Yes, things could have gone a little better. But, on the other hand there’s a better day.
I think real life is the same way, don’t you? When we first get started out on our own, we often picture that life going a certain way, however that is rarely how things turn out. The life you have may not be what you pictured, your character may take a little rough patch, but there is a formula that produces a good end.
21 Death and life are in the power of the tongue,
And those who love it will eat its fruit.
This Scripture is so powerful. It has been said that women speak an average of 20,000 words per day. (I don’t even want to get into characters per text message!) Of all of the words that come out of our mouth every single day, how many do you think would speak life? What about the rest?
Our attitude is so important in all of life–especially in marriage. The person we love is not always going to do the right thing, say the right thing, or treat us like a princess. I doubt there are very many good books, however, that allow the female protagonist to scream, hit, throw the china and crystal across the kitchen into pieces, or tear the male protagonist down with ugly words or actions. That’s not good literature. That’s not good cinema. That’s not good life.
I don’t know about you, but I wouldn’t want to visit the end of a tale of a storybook heroine turned evil. Talk about unhappily ever after! So, if anyone else has hit that place in your marriage–not the ecstatic beginning, (certainly not a bitter end!) but just a middle with a rough patch in it–I have 5 words that you can use to turn your story around…
God, please bless my husband!
Praying for his blessing instead of pointing fingers is the game changer to… End. All. Game changers. Here is a place that you can take your creativity and put it to work. Find all the Scriptures in the Bible of what you want your marriage to look like and who you want to be as a couple, and Speak Life.
Here are a few to get you started:
Numbers 6:24-26, Psalm 23. Psalm 91, Isaiah 58:11, Isaiah 60:1-2 & 19, Isaiah 61:1-3
Speaking in line with God’s word is also a powerful tool to use in your marriage. Here’s my list of confessions to go along with the first chapter or two of Tony Evans’ book Kingdom Man.
Just doing this one thing has been SO pivotal in my life and marriage. I wish that I had been more diligent to be a prayer warrior for my man right from the start! The most amazing thing is that it doesn’t take a lot of energy or the perfect prayer. Just a few minutes while you are fixing his coffee or while you’re in the shower is an awesome way to honor your man and let God take hold of his day! Now it’s your turn. What are your favorite Scriptures to pray over your husband? Let everyone know in the comments below!